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Monthly Archives: April 2017

Become Ideal Parent

As parents we would never wish ill on our children. In fact, the mere idea of their suffering can make us break out in a cold sweat. We work hard day in and day out to provide a safe, stable environment, and we attempt to give them as many opportunities as we can possibly find. We want our children to live in a beautiful, cheerful world of smiles and splendor. Our love is unconditional and deep. We can watch them sleep and feel our hearts melt. God has given us a great blessing with our children, and we do our best to cherish that blessing with every fiber of our beings.

Every one of us encountered trials and tribulations; unforeseen problems or consequences that may give us pause. Not one of us is exempt from this hard reality. We would not wish for a new cross or hardship to carry, but we would rather it be our suffering than our child’s burden. There are two important points to consider when obstacles arise: 1) adversity can lead to strength and 2) how our own endurance of hardship becomes a model for our children.

Time after time, we can see people fighting through their circumstances to bring something beautiful to life. Watching our children suffer disappointments, not getting invited to a classmate’s birthday party or not making an important team, is painful. However, disappointment is a necessary part of growing up.

Modeling appropriate behavior when things don’t go our way teaches our kids to handle disappointments. For example, you have taken your child on a wonderful vacation. At the end, you ask how he enjoyed the respite, only to hear “It was OK, but a lot of it was boring.” You may be crushed, but you can’t force your own expectations about spending quality time together on your child. The key is to not overreact with a hurtful response, but instead to ask a specific question such as “What was your favorite part of the vacation?” This type of redirection will encourage your
child to see the good parts of the experience. It’s important to step back and let the child use these new skills allowing him to be responsible for his/her own feelings.

Help your child find his/her strengths. One of the most common disappointments children faced is feeling they are not as good as their peers.Failure can turn into a blessing. It can be a motivator to study harder, to practice harder, or to attempt a different approach.

Success is not always about winning, it is more often about finding another path. Help your child find something he or she can be good at that matches his/her interests. If that is not an option, find another way to approach the goal that takes advantage of his/her abilities.

Education Begins in Home

Teachers recognize this more than any other professional group because it is in their classroom that they experience the consequences, good or bad, of what children learn at home. Hence, teachers at every new school year establish classroom rules in an attempt to ensure a universal law of acceptable social conduct.

As a tenet, parents are responsible for whether or not children succeeds academic. Without ignoring a child’s predetermine abilities, they must project clear positive expectations concerning school. As these expectations take form, parents should remember that children mimic what they see and hear. Hence, they should avoid making negative comments concerning their children’s teacher and or school. Parents cannot demand that their children perform well academically when homework assignments are not completed, and social events are prioritized over establishing appropriate bedtime routine for school age children.

There is no denying that a child will act out, usually this begins at pre-K through kindergarten levels. When left unchecked by parents, acting out, becomes a norm for a child. When established as a habit, the disruptive behavior hinders the child’s academic success. Parents should not expect teachers to teach their children proper conduct and yet the burden of learning these skills sits heavily on the shoulders of many teachers.

When a child acts out and the parent ignores the behavior, the child learns to devalue the importance of the teacher, the school and ultimately learning. Parent who do not understand the value and importance of early prevention will have an uphill battle as the child attends secondary schools. Laying a strong education foundation consist of the child, parent, and teacher working together in a respectfully academic world of cooperation. Teachers cannot do it all.

Teach Kids about Home Security

Educate about when to answer the door:

If your descendants are alone and the need to answer the door, they should know that they have to look through the peephole first to see if it is a known face or not. And, if it is an unknown face, then they should answer through the intercom or open the door with the door chain latched. Also, while communicating with the stranger, children should inform that their parents are in the neighborhood or have gone to some nearby market and will be back in a few minutes, thus, requesting the person to come again later.

Train them how to answer the calls:

When you are away and your little darlings receive a call, they should be edified not to give their details on the phone rather, ask for the name of the person on the other side and take down the message. Also, they shouldn’t let the fact get conveyed to the other person that they are alone at home. Instead, they can portray that their elders are occupied with some important work and will get back to them soon.

Display Good Behavior:

Do things that you want your kids to grasp. They learn what they see. So, try to display things through your behavior first like closing doors & windows before leaving the house. Parents may even involve their offspring in these tasks as well.

Make your Kids learn the Emergency Numbers:

Tell your children about 911 and other emergency contact numbers, including your number and numbers of some trusted people. Guardians can even pen down these numbers and keep them besides land line phone. Also, making them learn the home address by heart can be pretty useful specifically in case they call 911 and they have to convey operator about it.

Install and Instruct about the Security Systems:

Positioning security systems like security alarms, security cameras, etc. will give you peace of mind when you are out. As children are mischievous, thus, they might end up doing some pranks or something naughty which you might not be happy about. And, to hide their activities they might deactivate the cameras for a while. So, instruct your kids strictly not to tamper with the security cameras. Also, share with them how to arm and disarm the alarm systems.

Unknown Parcels should not be accepted:

Kids should be guided not to accept any courier parcel which they don’t know about or for which their parents didn’t mention anything beforehand.

Stress Management

Parenting is a hard job and sometimes we become overwhelmed by the challenges we face. If a happy home for your family is important to you, you will find a way to face those challenges.Try some of the suggestions below:

Don’t put your kids to bed late and hope they will sleep later the next morning.That does not always work and you usually end up with a child that wakes up at the normal time, who is cranky for the entire day.

Instill thankfulness and gratitude in your children. Be sure they thank people who help them. Involve your children in writing thank you notes for gifts and kind deeds that are done for them. (Young children can tell you what they want you to write and older children can write notes on their own).

When your children are doing homework, provide a comfortable, well-lit space near enough for them to ask for help if they need it. Check in with them and see that the work is actually getting done, and offer positive reinforcement.

Establish regular routines, which children both need and thrive on. Uncertainty can make anyone nervous, but children are especially vulnerable to the stress and anxiety that can come with not knowing what is happening. Regular routines will help keep your kids happy and confident.

Use books or other resources to help answer your child’s difficult questions.Find a fact-based resource that helps you explain the answer(s)effectively and age-specific. (You can find a book on almost any topic these days).

Read often to your children, as long as they will allow you to. From picture books when they are small, to chapter books when they are older, reading creates a bonding experience you are both sure to enjoy. Ask your older children to take turns reading.

Make sure that your children understand what is acceptable and what is unacceptable behavior. Sometimes children can mis-read your messages. Explain in clear terms what it is that you expect of him or her, then ask them to explain it back to you, if necessary.