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Become Ideal Parent

As parents we would never wish ill on our children. In fact, the mere idea of their suffering can make us break out in a cold sweat. We work hard day in and day out to provide a safe, stable environment, and we attempt to give them as many opportunities as we can possibly find. We want our children to live in a beautiful, cheerful world of smiles and splendor. Our love is unconditional and deep. We can watch them sleep and feel our hearts melt. God has given us a great blessing with our children, and we do our best to cherish that blessing with every fiber of our beings.

Every one of us encountered trials and tribulations; unforeseen problems or consequences that may give us pause. Not one of us is exempt from this hard reality. We would not wish for a new cross or hardship to carry, but we would rather it be our suffering than our child’s burden. There are two important points to consider when obstacles arise: 1) adversity can lead to strength and 2) how our own endurance of hardship becomes

Education Begins in Home

Teachers recognize this more than any other professional group because it is in their classroom that they experience the consequences, good or bad, of what children learn at home. Hence, teachers at every new school year establish classroom rules in an attempt to ensure a universal law of acceptable social conduct.

As a tenet, parents are responsible for whether or not children succeeds academic. Without ignoring a child’s predetermine abilities, they must project clear positive expectations concerning school. As these expectations take form, parents should remember that children mimic what they see and hear. Hence, they should avoid making negative comments concerning their children’s teacher and or school. Parents cannot demand that their children perform well academically when homework assignments are not completed, and social events are prioritized over establishing appropriate bedtime routine for school age children.

There is no denying that a child will act out, usually this begins at pre-K through kindergarten levels. When left unchecked by parents, acting out, becomes a norm for a child. When established as a habit, the disruptive behavior hinders the child’s

Teach Kids about Home Security

Educate about when to answer the door:

If your descendants are alone and the need to answer the door, they should know that they have to look through the peephole first to see if it is a known face or not. And, if it is an unknown face, then they should answer through the intercom or open the door with the door chain latched. Also, while communicating with the stranger, children should inform that their parents are in the neighborhood or have gone to some nearby market and will be back in a few minutes, thus, requesting the person to come again later.

Train them how to answer the calls:

When you are away and your little darlings receive a call, they should be edified not to give their details on the phone rather, ask for the name of the person on the other side and take down the message. Also, they shouldn’t let the fact get conveyed to the other person that they are alone at home. Instead, they can portray that their elders are occupied with some important work and will get back to

Stress Management

Parenting is a hard job and sometimes we become overwhelmed by the challenges we face. If a happy home for your family is important to you, you will find a way to face those challenges.Try some of the suggestions below:

Don’t put your kids to bed late and hope they will sleep later the next morning.That does not always work and you usually end up with a child that wakes up at the normal time, who is cranky for the entire day.

Instill thankfulness and gratitude in your children. Be sure they thank people who help them. Involve your children in writing thank you notes for gifts and kind deeds that are done for them. (Young children can tell you what they want you to write and older children can write notes on their own).

When your children are doing homework, provide a comfortable, well-lit space near enough for them to ask for help if they need it. Check in with them and see that the work is actually getting done, and offer positive reinforcement.

Establish regular routines, which children both need and thrive on. Uncertainty can make anyone nervous, but children are especially

Simple Coach Your Child

Empathize with him.

Feel his feelings and go to them with understanding and kind words, like:

“I can see this really bothers you”
“How do you feel about it?”
“It really hurts, doesn’t it?”

Knowing you understand and appreciate what he’s going through, helps him feel better.

Ask, “How would you like to solve it?”

After you’ve taken care of his feelings and when you’re sure he’s ready to think about solutions, show your belief in him. Instead of you giving a bunch of suggestions, ask for his. This helps him become his own problem solver.

Do your best to control any tendency to jump in. Believing in your child’s ability strengthens him and your relationship.

Listen.

Use your third ear. That’s the ear that hears what’s underneath the thoughts and feelings. Listen for what he isn’t saying. Appreciate his good ideas too.

Let’s say he answers, “I could tell my teacher the truth.”

“Good, anything else?” you ask.

If he says, “No,” then go on to Step 5.

Make a suggestion.

Because you’ve listened, cared about his feelings, and heard his solution, he’s more

Must know about Kids And Respect

Being quiet in a library so that others can read.

Following your parents rules to show them that you care about them and how they feel about the situation.

Not hitting or calling people names because that could hurt them or hurt their feelings.

Dress, talk and act in a way that shows that you care about yourself and others.

Realize that everyone else looks, speaks, thinks and acts different and it is alright to show that you care about them and their feelings.

Standing up for the Pledge of Allegiance or bowing your head in prayer.

These are all simple ways for you to explain this to a child in a way that they can understand. Let’s all work on teaching our children what it means to treat others the way that you want to be treated. In our society today children are not motivated to do anything other than sit in front of a television, play video games, tweet or text on their phones. I remember as a child that we were outside ninety percent of the time playing and getting exercise. I think that we need to go back

Info of Parental Homework Anxiety

Delegate. If you know that the daily routine of homework will inevitably end up with someone in tears, pass this job onto someone else. There is an Ancient Greek aphorism “know thyself”, which rings true in almost every facet of life, including parental homework anxiety. There is no shame in knowing your strengths as a parent, and the things that are just not your “cup of tea”. And, if homework brings about stress and chaos, delegate it out! Perhaps your partner can take on this task, or maybe an older sibling, a babysitter, or another family member can become the designated “Homework Helper”.

Multitask. I am well aware that it isn’t always feasible to delegate out the job of “Homework Helper”. In situations where the bulk of the job falls on your shoulders, and yours alone, find something else to do during homework time. At my oldest child’s first Back to School Night in kindergarten, I remember the teacher saying that homework is for the child to do, NOT THE PARENT. This seems pretty obvious. But, how often do we, as parents, get frustrated that our child doesn’t know all of the answers? Remember, homework is not

Handling Bullied Child

Breathe. First and foremost, you need to relax. Children pick up on our energy. If you are angry and overwhelmed by the situation, your child will feel it. When children feel our energy, they do not know what to do with it. They do not yet have the tools to process their own feelings and emotions, let alone an adult’s. This would be a great time to practice my favorite “counts of four breaths”. This is when you inhale over a count of four, hold it for a count of four, and release over a count of four.

Refocus. As much as you want to seek revenge, this will solve nothing. Instead, use that energy to focus on what really matters- your child. This is the perfect opportunity to show your child that you will always have his or her back. Validate their feelings by saying something like “I know that it made you sad when Sally wouldn’t let you play with her at recess. It is confusing when our friends say things that are hurtful.” All kids handle bully situations differently. Some kids will come home and tell you every detail about the situation, while others

Determining Parenting Plan

  • Sit down privately with the other parent to discuss matters between yourselves:
  • If you are concerned about behavior and still want to discuss things directly with the other parent, choose a public place to meet or include a mutually agreed upon person to join you. This can be someone you both trust in a professional capacity, your clergy, a counselor, a mutual friend (who is able to remain neutral);
  • Meet with a trained counselor whose expertise is helping separated parents communicate between themselves;
  • Meet with a mediator whose expertise includes working with separated parents. A mediator is a professional whose expertise is helping people in conflict reach agreements between themselves by working with them together, even though the notion can be anxiety producing. You only need to be willing to try. You don’t have to believe that yourself or the other parent will actually come to an agreement. In fact, more often than not, people who attend mediation are of the opinion that it is “the other person” who will not be ale to reach an agreement, yet most matters do settle or at least are narrowed down by the process;
  • Retain “collaborative” lawyers and sign a participation agreement. Collaborative

All about Parenting Problems

Negotiation means the child wins – Say what you mean and mean what you say. When you find your child trying to change the rules or justify why s/he shouldn’t have to do something you are sunk. The best response to their protests is to calmly and firmly repeat your position without offering an opening for discussion.

Do not reward bad behaviour – When a child does not do what is expected, then they miss out on the fun. For example, not cleaning their room means that they do not go out with friends. They do their work FIRST and then are rewarded. This takes strong resolve on the part of the parent but pays off in the long-run.

Boundaries are a good thing – The child is not your therapist and definitely should not know about all of your personal problems. They need to know that you are not an ATM that will dispense cash into their adulthood. Why should you be faithful in going to your job while they lounge in the basement without contributing because they decided to quit school and not work? Set boundaries, communicate and enforce them.

Consistency makes it

Stop Praising

Students turn to cheating because they haven’t developed a strategy for handling failure. The problem is compounded when a parent ignores a child’s failures. Parents often continue to praise the intelligence and insists the kid will do better next time.

Michigan scholar Jennifer Crocker studies this exact scenario and explains that the child may come to believe failure is something so terrible; the family can’t acknowledge its existence. A child deprived of the opportunity to discuss mistakes can’t learn from them.

Cloninger has trained rats and mice in mazes to have persistence by carefully notrewarding them when they get to the finish. “The key is intermittent reinforcement,” says Cloninger. The brain has to learn that frustrating spells can be worked through. “A person who grows up getting too frequent rewards will not have persistence because they’ll quit when the rewards disappear.”

No, praise them differently! Recognize the effort, hard work and process. Let’s say every night your child (12-year-old boy) has math homework and is supposed to read a book aloud. Each takes about fifteen minutes if he concentrates, but he’s easily distracted. You should praise him for concentrating without asking to take a break.

Bonding With Children

When you have your own chores to do, keep them busy when they are around. Ask them to color pictures in drawing books; give them clay so that they enjoy making stuffs. But to have this upper hand, you initially need to invest your time in teaching them how to do them. Once they get it, they will be engaged and do them on their own and you are free to do your own stuff.

Of course, by age six or seven, it will be high time for them to attend school. So they will need some help with homework. Let them work on their own first based on what they have learnt in school. Then you can correct their concepts if they make a mistake or two.

They also need to have fun outside of home in mother-nature environment. It can be a park to play on swings, see-saws and merry-go-rounds or a nearby pond to feed the ducks. During summer/winter holidays, it is up to you to decide ahead of time with your spouse how you are going to spend these vacations in an exciting way for the benefit of the children especially, within

Some Life Skills to Teach Kids

Social Awareness and Manners

Impart social and conversational skills from a young age by letting kids join in on adult gatherings from time to time. Don’t make a habit of always segregating your children from the adults – they can learn a lot about etiquette, social cues and the art of conversation from watching grown-ups. These settings are also a good time to work on basic manners including the consistent use of “please,” “thank you,” “pardon me,” as well as proper dining etiquette.

Respect for Others

Children learn respect from their family and it starts with family members caring for each other’s physical space, thoughts, interests and needs. When kids feel that what’s important to them is held in high regard by others, they will be able to emulate the same respect for their family and peers.

All Things Nature

Instill a lifelong love of the outdoors and of nature by spending plenty of time in the fresh air, in all kinds of weather. Let your kids climb trees at the park, plant seedlings in the garden, feed the birds in your backyard and jump in rain puddles on the street. All ages

Tips Raise Kids Right Way

1 – Put parenting first:

Once you’re a parent, you have to learn to put your priorities below your children’s, and to make the sacrifice to spending more of your day caring for them than you do caring for yourself.

2 – Don’t aim for perfection:

According to a study, new parents who believe society expects perfection from them are more stressed and less confident in their parenting skills.

3 – Be good to your sons, Mamas:

A warm, attached relationship with mom seems important in preventing behavior problems in sons, even more so than in girls, the research found.

A close relationship with their mothers can help keep boys from acting out.

4 – Eat dinner as a family:

The dinner table is not only a place of sustenance and family business but also a place for the teaching and passing on of our values.

5 – Tend to your mental health:

Research suggests that depressed moms struggle with parenting and even show muted responses to their babies’ cries compared with healthy moms.

According to researches, kids raised by these mothers are more easily stressed out

Grateful Families

Grateful families spend quality time together. Children need to be held by a loving family in order to feel nurtured and supported, which in turn, will show them how to love and care for others. By spending quality time together, free of distractions, kids of all ages will bond more deeply with parents while learning empathy at the same time. Without empathy, there can be no gratitude.

Grateful families are generous. When people are fulfilled and thankful for all that they have, they are more giving. Their cup is full and they want to share their wealth of love and gratitude with others. The more often you give, the more often you will want to give again.

Grateful families practice gratitude daily. It’s not always innate, so parents need to teach children by practicing grateful behaviour in everyday interactions. It will become a habit for kids when they see it modelled by their parents. Encourage children to volunteer to help those less fortunate, to appreciate what they have, and to be giving and thoughtful to their friends. Teach them the concept of “pay it forward.”

Grateful families know the value of hard work

Eating Out With Kids

Consider their ages and stages. If your kids are school-aged and have been taught table manners, by all means, take them to a nice place. If your kids are still little and learning, please take them to a fast food place or teach them some manners at home! Emily Post has great advice. Kids should be taught to sit quietly and eat or participate in conversation, but not everyone is like me and has dinner around the table just about every night. I think children need opportunities to behave in a restaurant, but start small and slow before taking them someplace they’ll embarrass you or cause a scene.

Consider your purpose. Why are you planning to go to a restaurant? Is there some family event or are you just trying to avoid cooking dinner? Family gatherings can be fun, but make sure kids are included in the invite. (Here’s where a flexible caregiver can help!) If you just don’t want to cook, think frozen food, or at least choose a restaurant that is family-oriented, which leads to my second piece of advice.

Consider your options. So you’re going out. Where to take the family? Choose family

Every Child Should Hear

I AM PROUD OF YOU

As parents and caring adults, applaud the efforts of the child, not the fact that they may have achieved or not achieved. Children crave your support and blessings, and most of their behavior is towards gaining your love, approval and acceptance. I always tell my children, “Remember it is about the participating and not the winning that matters. The very fact that you are participating in the event is good enough for me”. When they tell you how they have fared, tell them how proud you are of them. Don’t compare their efforts with those of other children.

By constantly praising their efforts, children develop a healthy attitude towards their self esteem. Make them aware that will always hold the pole position as far as you are concerned, no matter what. I know it can be difficult sometimes but keep on encouraging them, and one day they will surprise you with what they have achieved and can achieve in life.

I AM SORRY

Have you ever told your child that you are sorry? Do it when you have made a mistake and see how they tell you that it

Kids have Favorite Time

When the atmosphere of the family becomes unsound, it is better create quality time to each of our kid. Our children crave for attention. The reason that we need to give them our undivided attention is for them to feel secure. Whatever happens, we should see to it that we are always there for them.

As parents, we can ease our kids’ fears, worries and hurts. When we give them our full attention, they feel safe to open up and share with us their worst fears and pains.

As parents we should show our selfless love to our children especially when they are still very young. They demand more of our time, energy and patience. But we also need to set boundaries. We need to learn how to say no when things get out of hand. We might feel drained. Failing to resolve the unmet needs of our kids might lead to resentment.

We need to be spontaneous in building bonds with our kids. Once our kids feel that we neglect them, it is difficult to repair the emotional gap that we created. When we give our kids our undivided attention, we should focus our

Children Safe When Driving

When going from point “A” to point “B” with a child in a car the law requires that the minor 14 or under be in the back seat. Infant and toddlers, as per the law should be in a child’s car seat or a booster seat respectively. The infant’s car seat should be position where the back faces the passenger front seat, resulting in the infant facing the back seat cushion. Children six years or older use the booster seat and are secured by the car’s back seat belt. The restraint of the child in the car seat or the back seat has specifics layout to minimize injury should there be an accident.

Parents, when they follow these guidelines, drive around confident in the knowledge that their children are secured so that when an accident occurred the harm to them might be none or minimal. Parents who are not secure in this knowledge often reach out to community centers and designated stations to help them properly install the car seat. With the establishment of social media parents can also get information on the best way to buckle up their children via You Tube, Pinterest and yes even

Consequences Poor Parenting

The worse case scenario would involve an unwanted child coming into this world in the absence of love and affection. This is a child who will not only fail to thrive, but might die a premature death during Childhood.

Poor parenting might include a measure of love and affection, but will too often fail to leave the child feeling that those needs are being adequately satisfied. Parental neglect and/or authoritarian parenting practices (invariably including spanking as a punishment) are the major causes of parents failing to meet the emotional needs of their children to feel loved and accepted.

Show me a child who has been failed in having their emotional needs adequately satisfied, and I’ll show you a child who is prone to missing out on a healthy process of emotional growth and development. The negative consequences are myriad and can range from sociopathy/psychopathy to inadequate empathy, to anger issues, to low self-esteem, to clinical depression, to criminal behavior, to homelessness, or, simply, to a miserable existence.

The degree of long-term harm caused by poor parenting is dependent on the degree of unsatisfied emotional need the child has suffered.

I’ve worked with kids who